Course – 05 Activity 6: Share Your Reflection
Think about a situation when your son/daughter did something that you disliked. You felt really bad/hurt about it. Now analyse the situation in the light of these: what they had done? Why did they behave/say in this manner? How did you react to it? How differently could you respond in this situation?
Share your reflection.
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DeleteStay calm and cool. Ignore and keepthings under observation
ReplyDeleteStay clam and think about the problem . try to observe and provide guidance
ReplyDeleteWhen my son done any mistake he is bold enough to accept his mistake and promise me that he will not repeat again and once he promises he stands on that word. That confidence I have on him.
ReplyDeleteI will try to stay calm and later I will tell the mistake what he had done and warn him not to repeat him.
ReplyDeletestay calm ,rethink and analyse
ReplyDeleteWhen they do some serious mistakes we should acknowledge them by some gestures that we have noticed that thing seriously. Later we can sit and talk with them that how is that affected everyone and how such situation can handle by themself or taking advice from a reliable person. .
ReplyDeleteI was tired and frustrated when i had to help my third grade kid to ride his bicycle...but in time he learned to balance...and now he rides alone ...Patience is required for everyone...some learn quickly..other takes a bit extra...
ReplyDeleteI would have gone to the depth of the situation rather reacting instantly.
ReplyDeleteKeep cool and ask him or her to introspect about his act and let them understand and learn from their own mistake
ReplyDeleteWe as a parent or teacher should try to remain as calm as possible and understand the situation in which the child is right now.
ReplyDeletewe have to look foward for upcoming situation.
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ReplyDeleteMy daughter returned from school in the evening of her birthday. I had purchased a surprise gift for her, which I presented her very cheerfully. without opening the gift, she thronged the gift. I was very upset and expressed my annoyance. Suddenly she started crying and said that her friends teased her as a miser when she distributed birthday toffees to her friends in the class. They expected better from her. I could have first asked about reason for she thronging my gift rather than expressing my anger.I should have consoled her in a passive manner to convey that she is my darling daughter. By doing so, I would have gained her confidence on me.
ReplyDeleteStay calm and keep a regular check on the behaviour.
ReplyDeleteThe best way is to counsel and be friendly
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ReplyDeleteSometime ,When she commit any mistake, I discuss the problem and try to convince her friendly.
I would discuss with them the matter and try to get to a conclusion, though I would feel bad if I come to know about it from someone else.
ReplyDeleteI think I have a deeper understanding with my only child and try to accommodate her basic demands. Have probably lost my cool with her a few times but make it a point to apologize in case of a mistake from my side. This has helped her to accept her mistakes and extend her apologies to people who are hurt by her behaviour.
ReplyDeleteWhen my son joined his graduation he developed lot of friends and wasting his time. So I sat with him and explained the I'll effects of over spending time with friends we got to a conclusion. Problem solved amicably.
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ReplyDeleteWhenever I confronted such a situation in my life as a parent, I tried to adopt the teachings I gained as a student of Psychology. I never showed any hot outburst no matter how bad the situation was, on the contrary, I patiently waited for my turn to explain my child the right way of doing things.
ReplyDeleteOfcouse, being habituated to my ways, my child too tended to understand the fault and never repeated it. As a teacher too, I believe and practice the same principles of patient listening and handling my taughts.
As a parent, we need to stay calm , understand what they are going through and help them come to terms with changes taking place in their lives.
ReplyDeleteStay clam, understand their needs and help them.
ReplyDeleteThere are times in life when we have to be more mature. we need to remember we are parents of adolscent children and not of kids.our silence alone will bring wisdom to them.The more we thrust the parental reaction,greater is the the tantrum.lesser is the success.let parents use their wisdom first. things will automatically fall in place.
ReplyDeleteI am a very cool person and never get angry.If my children do something wrong I keep a watch and try to counsel when they are in friendly mood.
ReplyDeleteI feel very disheartened when my younger siblings make me hurt but after certain period of time I used to told them it's not good to hurt the one who loves you.
ReplyDeleteIt is important not to react. My children have faith in me and with a lot of courage, they may approach me with a problem or mistake that they are facing. Keeping this in mind, it is important that I listen (really listen) and then support them in every possible way.
ReplyDeleteThough moral lessons are given later but definitely not at that moment.
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ReplyDeleteI will try to keep myself in a composed and calm situation. Later try to discuss the the situation in s positive ways d make my daughters understand and realise their mistakes. So that their self realisation happens and their self esteem is not lowered down. In this way a healthy relationship with trust will develop.
ReplyDeleteAlways keep yourself calm in every situation and try to maintain trust and confidence in your children by communicating with them.
ReplyDeleteI will handle that situation peacefully because I know my ward is not bad .In adverse condition he is behaving like this
ReplyDeleteI see to it that my children are involved in the discussions for deciding certain issues related to household matters. This makes them feel important and many issues are solved at the grassroot level itself.
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ReplyDeleteThe child is at a learning stage and so his actions are reflection of his understanding and behaviour pattern. As adult we need to reflect on that deeply and without reacting , explain the same to the child. The key is respond and not react. Children do make mistakes but the adults have to guide them about the righteous path. They have to become problem solvers, so our responsible role will help in setting an example.
ReplyDeleteI will discuss with them on the matter and find a solution
ReplyDeleteReflection can be notified from the behavioral patterns of students
ReplyDeleteReflection can be seen in the results of students
ReplyDeleteChildren in teen age do have stress related to body, image, cyber addiction, peer pressure, competition, bullying, ego which they seldom share with parents. This may lead such children to show defiant and aggressive behaviour at times.
ReplyDeleteThey may behave as such perhaps they wish to convey sensitivities, wants and worries which they directly can't speak out and want parents to understand this vis a vis their body language.
A normal parent may react with aggression, stick and abuse, which further depresses a child. But, educated parents develops loveable relationship and encourgae child to share his/her worries and sensitivities.
Art integrated learning helps in holistic development, students remain engaged if this method of teaching is adopted.they will never feel bored about a particular subject because they will be active learners rather listening to a teacher's lecture passively
ReplyDeleteI will listen, understand the matter, their POV, reason behind the actions, then find the solution.
ReplyDeleteMy son was studying in my school itself. It so happe6 that my colleague brought him to me saying that he copied during internal exam. I felt so ashamed and somehow managed my emotions and asked him 'is it right'. He also was full of emotions and about to break. So I advised him in front of colleague amd made him swear that this kind of acts will not be repeated. Later from home we discussed it and he understood the unfairness of the act
ReplyDeleteOne of my friend who is a teacher of my son's school inform me about my son. His behaviour is gradually rude day by day with his classmates. One day l ask him politely and listening every thing . Two Classmate are misbehaving regularly with him because his excellent results. I suggest my son, he can help them in his study during school hours and share with them his daily routine , efforts etc. Now a days they're become true friend!
ReplyDeleteMy Son during the Adolescence phase was exhibiting behavioral changes
ReplyDeleteto which i should have handled the situation with more calm and ease ,instead of reacting instantly.
It could be a very great n different challenge to face and deal with such critical n crucial situation. I trust to keep faith in our children so that they could realise what mistake he/she has done. With mutual understanding n patience such sort of situations could be sorted out.
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ReplyDeleteStay clam and think about the problem . It is very useful vedio for us .
ReplyDeleteIt happened many times . Many times I reacted in anger but later I decided to stay calm ,listen to him and devise a new solution to the problem
ReplyDeletethink I have a deeper understanding with my only child and try to accommodate her basic demands. Have probably lost my cool with her a few times but make it a point to apologize in case of a mistake from my side. This has helped her to accept her mistakes and extend her apologies to people who are hurt by her behaviour.
ReplyDeleteI have a deeper understanding with my only child and try to accommodate her basic demands. Have probably lost my cool with her a few times but make it a point to apologize in case of a mistake from my side. This has helped her to accept her mistakes and extend her apologies to people who are hurt by her behaviour.
ReplyDeleteI will try to analyse the reason for getting angry. Will apologize for my behaviour n will Practice to remain cool in any situation
ReplyDeleteOnce i shouted at my son for not following my direction, later i found that he could not due to playing of games online. I called him then and make him understand the importance of following good instructions of parents to help them cope up with life. He realised and did it happily.
ReplyDeleteTeach children by action not only by talking
ReplyDeleteFailing in a Math test, in Class 7. I was horrified. Scolded him. It was later that I understood that my being busy and being unable to help him out was the cause. We remedied it by learning the topics together, and making sure that we learnt well. I wish instead I had apologized to him.
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ReplyDeleteWhen my daughter done any mistake he is bold enough to accept his mistake and promise me that she will not repeat again and once he promises he stands on that word. That confidence I have on him.
At that time parents usually feel too angry but instead of shouting aloud they should calm themselves and listen to their child then they should calmly make the child understand about the wrong and what can be done.
ReplyDeleteConsidering their age I always prefer to be silent . Discussing or talking back will only worsen the situation. I prefer talking or discussing the topic once the situation is calms down
ReplyDeleteAt first I support them with my kind words and there after I will rectify their mistakes by saying the reasons and impact on others
ReplyDeleteMy son went out on his bicycle without informing me. I became restless and worried about his safety. After he returned he explained me the reason. I stayed calm. After a while I explained the feelings which I have undergone and told him not to repeat it.
ReplyDeleteDiscuss without judgement
ReplyDeleteThere is always a reason behind children behaving in different ways. As a mother, give her time to express to you.
ReplyDeleteMy son is passionate about playing football. Carried away by his teenage friends, he told me that he would ride to the football field . However , I gave him permission to walk down to the field . But he was adamant on taking the bike . It was a NO NO from me. I saw him vent his anger and disappointment, he smashed a folding chair to the ground till he felt better. When he was calm I told him that I could let the chair go but not him. Later he too realised . Children must be given a chance to understand their behaviour and the end product of their behaviour ( in terms of materialistic things).
ReplyDeleteSuch situations do arise but we as parents need be calm and composed and counsel them as a friend .
ReplyDeleteMy children have never done anything so bad except few childish mischiefs which do not require any punishment. They have full faith in us and are very honest with us , accepting any mistake , if done. They always look up to us for the right path and have open discussions with us on all issues regrading them.
ReplyDeleteStay calm and make him understand.
ReplyDeleteThis improves mental health and keeps us mentally strong
ReplyDeleteStay calm and think about the solution which improves mental health.
ReplyDeleteReflection can be seen in the child's behaviour.
ReplyDeleteIt is important to stay calm in such situation and not lose your mind. I would reflect on my child's behaviour and try to think from his point of view. In short I would try to analyse his feelings and then we would sit and discuss the matter and come to a justified conclusion.
ReplyDeleteLooking at things from their point of view is very important. Being patient enough to accept the mistakes and correct them through calm and mature way can help us to overcome any such issues successfully.
ReplyDeleteOne should be extremely careful and measured in her/his approach which must base on sound principals and be devoid of personal prejudices and helo-horn effects over students.
ReplyDeleteGive space to them but at the same time observe and guide them.
ReplyDeleteAnger was not required at that moment. Stay calm.
ReplyDeleteWe can't ignore it, we should react on the mistake but with a cold head, try to understand our child's basic nature and make them understand about their mistake by giving real life examples. At last make it sure that they absorb it and don't ever repeat the same in their this life.
ReplyDeleteI analyzed the situation and discussed about it.Gave examples of ifs and buts of such cases and asked her to realise what she did was whether correct or wrong
ReplyDeleteMy daughter is preparing for civil exams but not putting efforts when l say she get irritated but after giving exam she realised it accepted my advices.
ReplyDeleteI will stay calm and friendly with him. Give him some time to realise his mistake.
ReplyDeleteMake them understand
ReplyDeletewill try to understand the current situation and try avoiding further consequences. keeping calm and quiet will make to decide better.
ReplyDeleteI would try to analyse the situation by talking to him , putting myself in his shoes. Instead of reprimanding him, I would explain to him the consequences of his action in a calm manner.
ReplyDeleteWe should not ignore or neglect it, we should react on the mistake but in a proper way, try to understand and listen child version and make them understand about their mistak. At last make it sure that they absorb it and don't ever repeat the same in their this life.
ReplyDeleteDuring adolescents, children want to explore something new. It is important to stay calm, understand and hear their side of story and then respond rather than reacting.
ReplyDeleteI would be really disappointed. Immediate emotional outburst would lead things to critical. So it's better to call down and take a break and meantime, allow the child to have a reflection on his/her own action. Later, I would take a personal time with the child and ask for the reason of the action. And I would also ask, what is her/him feeling about the action whether good or bad. These way I could get a clear idea about the reason and pressure behind the action and would gently guide why such activities need to be avoided.
ReplyDeleteInitially I was angry but I stayed calm and cool. Tried to ignore the behavior initially but later on explained them where they were wrong.
ReplyDeleteI never showed any hot outburst no matter how bad the situation was, on the contrary, I patiently waited for my turn to explain my child the right way of doing things.
ReplyDeleteOfcourse , being habituated to my ways, my child too tended to understand the fault and never repeated it. As a teacher too, I believe and practice the same principles of patient listening and handling my taught.
My kids have never done any such thing, but during this covid situation only my kids performance is a matter of concern, sometimes I really get annoyed and shout on them. Yes understanding their problem can help to overcome the difficulties they are facing
ReplyDeleteChildren as teenagers did get carried away with the big city life and did indulge in bunking classes . Initially when I found out , there was an outburst. But soon learnt it is better for them to introspect and give their explanation, for them to decipher whether it was right or wrong . I learnt to respond instead of reacting and of course guiding them.
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